We hope you’ll enjoy 12StepMe.org! Please read the following information before entering the chat room for the first time, so there are no surprises for you..

Brand New to AA?

Please understand that Alcoholics Anonymous is not affiliated with any others, and neither are we. We cannot sign your court slips; we cannot validate your medications; we cannot tell you how to get sober. We can only tell you what we—and millions before us—have done to get sober and become happy, joyous, and free.

Primary Purpose

Our primary purpose to provide an area for those who wish to assist others in doing the 12 steps as outlined in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, those who wish to learn how to sponsor others, and to demonstrate how God-dependence and service to others is the path to a happy, joyous, and free life.


The purpose of a sponsor is to take your hand and put it into the hands of God by sharing the spiritual principles of Alcoholics anonymous. A sponsor is someone who has—with their own sponsor—done the 12 steps as outlined in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous and is ready and willing to assist others in going through their 12 steps. We encourage you to get a sponsor locally; however, we hope you’ll use our site and events to supplement and strengthen your spiritual journey.

You can get a sponsor at any time by simply asking one of the facilitators to assign you one, or by asking someone in the chat room. It is often best to get a sponsor by having someone else choose one for you.

Our Software

We have capabilities that other online chat rooms may not provide, such as copy and paste. If you don’t want your writing to be copied and pasted, then don’t say it. If you think that what you have to share is too personal for someone to potentially copy, then it is probably too personal to share in the meeting room.

Our Chat Rules

  • Anyone treating others with disrespect will be booted—kicked out of the chat room. If you are booted, you will immediately receive an email telling you precisely why. You will be permitted back into the room within 24 hours. If you are booted more than 3 times in one month, you will be banned indefinitely. Disrespect is defined as verbal attacks on someone (not so-called attacks on how they work their program). Remember, however, that our focus is on the newcomer. You may be asked to take any arguments “outside” the chat room. We may offer to provide a separate room where anyone may attend a separate discussion, which should not be attended by newcomers. We may advise you to attend the next business meeting, and present the topic there.
  • Private chats are seen only by the persons that you see in attendance. No facilitators or members are given the capability to be invisible in your private chat or private rooms.
  • You may copy and paste what has been said, but please keep it within the boundaries of Alcoholics Anonymous anonymity statement: Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions. Please respect this and treat in confidence who you see and what you hear.
  • Foul language is permitted, within reason. If you find it offensive, please don’t enter our chat room. If it is not kept within reason, we’ll be forced to start censoring it out. Please don’t make us do that.

Our Meeting Rules

As yet, we are not a group that is connected with AA General Service Office because online groups don’t fall under their structure. However, our group does everything possible to adhere to the spirit of an AA group as defined by the General Service Office and the 12 Concepts of Service. You may find our meetings slightly different than other meetings. We do have meeting rules that assist us in fulfilling our group’s primary purpose. They are:

  • No one may share unless they have begun the 12 steps with a sponsor. Please don’t come here to whine about your life. We are all about change.
  • Speakers must have completed the 12 steps and begun sponsoring others.
  • Chairpersons must have completed the 12 steps and sponsored many others. It is the chairperson’s job to ensure that a message of hope is available here.
  • No chatting during the meeting.

Our Group

Our group’s birthday is September 4, 2010.

Our group is like most AA groups: We hold business meetings, and obtain group conscience for any issues, and use the Concepts of Service to the extent we are able. Issues that may affect the site owner’s personal liability or the liability of any group member are understandably not handled at the group level.

Any member of Alcoholics Anonymous may join our group. To have voting rights, you must be a regularly attending member for at least 30 days.

Any member who would like to chair or perform other service work may contact admin@12stepme.org.

Site Ownership

This site is currently owned by a member of Alcoholics Anonymous who is able to provide webmastering and hosting, and does so in the spirit of the 7th Tradition.

Alcoholics Anonymous, A.A. and The Big Book are registered trademarks or service marks of A.A. World Services, Inc.